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Sunday, April 2nd, 2006
7:58 pm
I was thinking the other day about how being over your job is a lot like the tail-end of a bad relationship. When both go horribly, you wonder why you are in it, and when it goes well, you think, well, hey, maybe it's not so bad at all, maybe I should stick around and when it inevitably gets hellish again, you think, hang on, why am I still here?
I think I know only one person who actually likes their job.
Which is much lower than the number of people I know who are in decent-ish, swimming-along relationships.
Which maybe means it is harder to find an ideal job than it is an ideal person to couple up with.
Or maybe I reside in a job satisfaction black hole.

On a less glum note, chocolate-happy public holidays are inching into distance.

Oh & I've been suckered into the cult of myspace. It's kinda like high school all over again - what with that bizarre "so-and-so has 5000 friends [or none]" tally. Except everyone has way better haircuts than they ever did in 7th grade. (Bad 7th grade haircuts are a universal, I just saw my sister's grade 7 school photos & I gotta say for all the worrying about girls growing up too quickly thanks to the Olsen twins bringing out G-strings for 10 year olds and all that, at least it is a relief to know what bad haircuts still rule supreme in the lower rungs of high school.)

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Tuesday, March 7th, 2006
12:36 pm - There's only so much I can do with traditional orthodontics.
saw thumbsucker again tonight, at the moonlight cinema. there were three busloads of schoolkids who saw it as part of some school excursion, which we agreed was a tiptop excursion far exceeding any of the ones we had in high school, until the "little punks" (said with much irony, given we're not *that* much older) wouldn't quit blabbering throughout the film.
the line that stuck out the most to me this time 'round was when tilda swinton talks about how as a parent, you think having a family means you'll never be lonely again, but of course, this isn't true.
everything really is a fight against loneliness. i remember interviewing this guy about god knows what, and i can't remember what his credentials were/are, but he thought that would be the biggest problem most people would face this century (& he said it with a weighty tone, like he was talking about manic depression, which some people would say is only 'three molecules different' to loneliness).
back on the thumbsucker track though, i love so many little aspects of the film, but perhaps my favourite is the last scene, where he's running and the music is just so unspeakably joyous, you can't help but be won over by that balloon-like-floating feeling.
plus, lou pucci is a total spunk (with a wonderfully expressive face and acting skills to boot).

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Saturday, March 4th, 2006
2:23 pm
so, for some reason, today i ended up having a conversation with jens lekman about ukeleles. i volunteer at a radio station and i just happened to be around when he came in for a live session. he seemed to have low ukelele esteem tho, and disparaged the ukelele he was playing a few times before he went into the studio. i thought it was fine (not that i am some ukelele-stradivarius, i'm sure in a blind test, you could fool me with a plinking $2 toy one fashioned out of fishing wire and paddlesticks). anyway, he explained it was just a ukelele he bought quite cheaply and that he recently had played a ukelele festival (!) where people laughed at his choice of instrument (sniff) cos they had serious, $1 million type ukeleles. which would explain his ukelele-wariness, but surely, given the ridiculously undersized appearances of ukeleles, it's amazing anyone could get all status-hound-like about those dinky-looking things.
they sure sound cute-as tho.
my friends once did a cover version of the flaming lips' "yoshimi battles the robots" on TWO ukeleles (take that, ukelele snobs!) and it sounded hugely sweet.

in other non-news, i had this nano-conversation with a boy i have a micro-crush on (micro because i refuse to let it develop in anyway before i get the all-clear that he isn't married, not-thus-inclined, or someone who happens to subsist on a diet of roast squirrel, kitten souffle and KKK pamphlets.) it didn't go well, and i suddenly was reminded of how a conversation can totally turn and crash on a single point, and how absolutely disheartening that can be. i guess i had totally forgotten that rejected feeling, which was strange, but maybe a good sign, proof that my relationship-glasses are no longer pitch-black and perhaps are inching closer to the rose-coloured end of the spectrum (in a healthy way tho, i don't think i'll ever be donning completely rose-coloured lenses again.) and then later, it turned out to be all easily explained, which was encouraging. it's still very micro cos i haven't figured out whether he is attached or likes to snack on kittens yet. and if he does, well, i'll only be micro-crushed, so that's OK. it is strange though, how everything in life just boils down to research. stalking (not that this fits the bill) is, when you really think about it, just another form of research.

tomorrow (well, really today, and only 10 hours away) is the laneway festival i am excited. i asked jens lekman whether he and new buffalo would be duetting on that lovely collab of theirs, "the corrections (inside)" and he said yes, during sally's set. yay.

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Thursday, February 9th, 2006
11:58 am
just saw the amazing doubt
see it see it see it if you can.
still working, but hanging by a thread.
going to melbn and perth soon for a mini-holiday. so very excited about that prison break.

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Wednesday, January 25th, 2006
12:03 pm
has anyone ever quit their job without having another lined up? 'cos i was very very close to quitting today. legally i think i have to give about a month or six weeks' notice if i want to leave, so (the part of me less oriented with the reality of paying bills) i was so tempted just to do it anyway cos the idea of being there for anything more than four-six weeks makes me feel stressed and ill. but (the part of me that is ridiculously responsible) i also don't know how risky that is, and whether i am just slowly going to eat up all my not-so-solid savings if i do that and end up in a bigger hole. hm. lotto, anyone?

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Wednesday, January 18th, 2006
11:37 am
last tuesday - interviewed chris geddes from belle and sebastian in which he said interesting things about him & stuart visiting palestine last year.
it's been ten years since "if you're feeling sinister" came out. goddamn.
saturday - saw the incredible andersen project. wow, i just don't know what to say about it that will evoke how damn good and inspiring it was.
tomorrow - going to see four tet and pivot at becks festival bar. hope it doesn't rain but given the drizzly week we've had, i'm not expecting to rock up to a super-dry hyde park barracks. i remember being super-squished to the point of not breathing comfortably when the downpour drove everyone into this tiny space under the canopy during tortoise's gig at the same venue last year. and weirdly had to have the gig relayed to me by someone taller cos there was no room to squeeze into a more view-friendly position.
friday - bright abyss
saturday - the kooky, folk-damaged melodies of cocorosie at the really gig-unpleasant, kinda classist venue that is the basement. should be fun tho, hopefully.
sunday - i want to dance better at parties
monday - then i hope lawn cuts it.

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Friday, January 6th, 2006
6:54 am - the funniest thing i've read all day
“You know, now I can see the situation from both sides,” I said.
“There’s some girls I know, friends of mine. They befriended this guy that works in the Mac shop. They’re just friendly enough to him; they pop in and see him at work. You should see them if he ever phones the house though! It’s like, big siren’s go off all over the kitchen. It’s not like they really want to know him, or socialize with him or anything. To be honest, the girls just want to get their friggin hard drives fixed.”
“It’s the way of the world. Girl’s just want to get their friggin hard drives fixed.

-a little old and entirely stolen from the belle and sebastian blog i love it.

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Tuesday, January 3rd, 2006
2:31 am
Yikes, am a bit calendar-confused, because I did my first radio graveyard shift last night, so my Tuesday 'started' at 1am, then 'ended' at 7am when I went to bed and now I am up again in the afternoon and my brain can't process that it is still Tuesday and I still have about 10 more hours of it still to go! I feel like I've accidentally been given all these extra hours in the same way someone who unthinkingly buys their usual box of cereal discovers they've been offered a bonus 40% more due to some strange promotional quirk. Hope this doesn't turn into Groundhog Day?
It was totally stressful but equally fun to do the overnight shift though. Pressing the right buttons and worrying about levels and cueing tracks up and egad, doing mic breaks was really quite scary at the beginning, especially when you inevitably bluff up, but it was such excellent fun hearin, all your favourite songs at such superloud, so-safe-to-heartily-sing-along-to volumes (cos it is so loud no one can discern yr dodgy karaoke voice should they be unlucky enough to be in the studio). It was also nice to be able to play some underrated tunes you want to brainwash - or perhaps earwash [tho that conjures such a grotty image i should take that back]unsuspecting people into listening to.

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Wednesday, December 7th, 2005
12:12 pm
it's that strange time of year, that month of marathon socialising (most of it against yr will). i think i have a whisked-out-of-jail-free card for my office xmas party, which is good news indeed. this year is my first as a "christmas orphan", the last two years i spent the day with my (now-ex) boyfriend's family and this time my parents have split sydney for warmer climes (tho can you really get warmer than today's ridiculous iron-burning heat in sydney?!) luckily, i have been 'rescued' and am going to a christmas orphans do, which kinda sounds like some waifish get-together from a dickens novel, but thankfully will be a lot more fun.

not much news here - almost finished my radio training and may graduate to doing the odd overnight shift (if i don't completely have studio amnesia and lose my voice and/or totally stuff up in some uniquely embarrassing way) and have almost finished french for the year.
went to see mike mills' shorts at resfest and really loved "Not How, What or Why But Yes", which is this doco he made for an art gallery in which he asked an eclectic selection of folk (including the damn fine & endearingly articulate lou pucci) on what 5 things they'd do if they knew they were going to die in 3 months' time. and after they answered their 5 things, saying everything from going to paris (thanks LP!) to staging political assassinations, then he switched it around and said, well, actually you've only got a week to live, so would you keep those 5 things the same? and then after they answered, he changed it to one day and they had to say which 5 things they'd still do or change. It was really interesting - some parts more so than others - and it really made you (me) think about time, and how you use it and how people use it and those two far bookends of doing something because hell, life is short, and not doing something because what is the point, you'll run out of time anyway & what you choose to do within those two extremes, and how close you play to either goalpost, it's an interesting thing.

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Thursday, November 24th, 2005
12:04 pm
I went to see The Squid and the Whale the other day, which I really, really loved. My friend, who I saw it with, found it a bit raw because the arguments that the divorcing parents in the film have were exactly the same ones his parents had on splitting up. I guess I'm lucky in that there is no close-to-home personal resonance for me in that way.
The part of the film that did really strike me personally was the reality that the person you fall for at the beginning is so crucially different to the same person you part with at the end (and that is probably why you're parting with them at the end). 'Cos no one goes out with someone because they're an arrogant, belittling, egotist. But at the beginning they probably were someone fundamentally different - they probably were a considerate, lovely, charmer. Which is the part that really, really gets me. Probably because I've got this whole noir-eyed glasses view of relationships at the moment, all I can think of is how you can never really know, when entering one, that the person who seemed so right is going to turn out, in X years' time, to be an oblivious heartbreaker who gives up so easily on the things worth persisting on (or whatever intolerable, relationship camel-breaking faux pas is worth substituting in your own personal circumstance). Which is probably very textbook post-breakup gloom & doom, but I can't seem to shake off. Cos how can you know? And you don't know. And then down the track years later, you think, "god, I can't believe I spent X years with that guy!"

Which is probably why I went on a mega-CD-binge this week. I scooped up the latest albums by Akron/Family, Outhud, Hanne Hukkelberg, Prefuse 73, The Robot Ate Me, Edan, and oldies I didn't have on disc - My Bloody Valentine's Loveless and Air's Virgin Suicides soundtrack. I haven't really been giving equal air time to all of them, but the one I really enjoy the most so far is Hanne Hukkelberg's.

Oh & while I am soapboxing, if yr in Sydney this weekend, please go see Pivot at the Abercrombie with Mountains In The Sky. Pivot are on at 6.30pm. They are the best live band in Sydney. The last time I saw them at Newtown RSL, they were sublime. And they are supporting Four Tet in January, for the very good price of about $27, which is a damn good pricetag for an international headline in a nice venue once frequented by convicts.

And while I am still plugging meritable things, please see the wonderfully subtle thumbsucker, which is prob my favourite film of this year.

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Monday, November 21st, 2005
12:32 pm
two songs that sum up, maybe, the first two-thirds of my year:
-saturday by josh rouse
-let it die by feist
they're both pretty much about disappointment and being let down by someone who has, well, certain emotional privileges you wouldn't allow anyone else.
so i am looking for the last song which sums up the last third of my year which is much more chipper, and not so wallow-able, and even a bit spirited and goddarn, you could even say *happy*, but gee they are hard to find. heartbreak is a better muse.

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Wednesday, November 9th, 2005
3:47 am
when i saw match point a few weeks ago, there was one line that really riled me.
jonathan rhys meyers' character says 'faith is the path of least resistance'. i think he meant that blind, unquestioning faith falls into that category, but i initially instinctively interpreted 'faith' as meaning that sense of having good faith in someone, particularly in relationships, that willingness to meet someone halfway or let go of what you really want, & to me, to have that faith in someone is actually a really hard thing, especially when it means giving up something (i am thinking of when two people want different things and one of them steps forward first to genuinely compromise & not actually call the other person's bluff) and that's a tough thing and not a path of least resistance at all.

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Thursday, November 3rd, 2005
6:03 am - while I still can... I'll post this
From the Media Entertainment & Arts Alliance...
Please feel free to copy and paste and send to the email address below...



Threats to freedom of expression
The federal government is rushing through anti-terror laws that threaten
freedom of expression.

These laws will radically alter the nature of public debate in this
country. The laws draw on community's fear to create a state where
government, police and judiciary will be able to act without
accountability.

Members are asked to urgently email the government, the opposition and
your local senators. A draft letter follows.

There are three grounds of concern:

Sedition too broad
Broadly defined sedition provisions within the proposed legislation will
unreasonably erode freedom of speech and artistic expression. Any person
or organisation could be charged with sedition without, as existing law
requires, having urged force or violence.

Essentially a journalist who reports a story or publishes comment
against the actions of the government, police or judiciary, could be
charged under these sedition laws.

The same goes for a performer or filmmaker involved in a production that
contains an anti-government polemic.

Current law already prohibits inciting crimes, membership and funding of
terrorist organisations, and racial vilification. There is no need to
stifle free speech. We call on the Government to urgently remove this
provision from the legislation.

Jail for reporting the truth
Under the Bill, the Australian Federal Police can request for a person
to be put on a preventative detention or control order. However, the
legislation also places restrictions on reporting details about a person
in preventative detention. A journalist who reveals that a person has
been detained, the length of the detention or any other information
relating to the order faces five years imprisonment.

It is an exaggerated penalty aimed to silence journalists - to
intimidate them into submission and allow miscarriages of justice go
unquestioned and inevitably unnoticed.

Coercion to reveal sources
The media's ability to do their job is further crippled by the police's
increased power to obtain documents, which may relate to a terrorism
offence.

Notice to produce provisions will allow the AFP to force journalists to
hand over information, including the identity of confidential sources,
if those documents will help in the investigation of a 'serious
terrorism offence'.

The fine for refusing to comply is $3,300. To add injury to insult, a
journalist who discloses that they've received a notice or the contents
of it will incur an additional fine of $13,200.

Howard wants to pass this law as quickly as possible. The federal
government has agreed to a two week Senate inquiry into the legislation,
which is inadequate time considering the scope and gravity of what is
being proposed.

The Alliance urges both houses of Parliament to take the time to
consider the significant ramifications this legislation will have on
public debate, freedom of expression and ultimately Australian
democracy.

Draft letter to the Prime Minister/Senators

To email the Prime Minister, cut and paste the letter into the email
facility at www.pm.gov.au/email.cfm For a full list of Senators' email addresses visit here

Dear Sir/Madam,

As a member of Australia's media and entertainment industries I want to
convey to you my deep concern regarding proposed anti-terror
legislation.

I understand that it is your intention/the intention of the Prime
Minister to pass these laws quickly due to an imminent terrorist threat.
However, I urge to think long and hard about the ramifications this
legislation will have on public debate, freedom of expression and
ultimately Australian democracy.

Broadly defined sedition provisions will unreasonably erode freedom of
speech and artistic expression. Any person or organisation could be
charged with sedition without, as existing law requires, having urged
force or violence. There are already laws in place that prohibit
inciting crimes, membership and funding of terrorist organisations, and
racial vilification. Such extreme sedition laws are not necessary and
should be excluded from the legislation.

Authorities will be able to act without accountability. Harsh penalties
for anyone who reports on people detained under preventative detention
or control orders attempts to dissuade journalists and the families,
lawyers and detained citizens from questioning possible miscarriages of
justice.

Notice to produce powers for the Australian Federal Police will prevent
journalists from doing their job. The AFP can force a journalist to hand
over all documents, including the identity of a confidential source.
With this threat, no one will speak to journalists and we can look
forward to only one viewpoint being heard in our media - that of the
government.

These are serious threats to our democracy. I urge you to think
carefully about these issues and oppose the Bill as it stands.

Yours sincerely,

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Sunday, October 23rd, 2005
5:47 am
monday:
saw boy gets girl at sydney theatre, which i really enjoyed (as much as you can enjoy something that tackles quite dark things). it made me think a lot about stalking, and why someone would be compelled to warp and threaten someone's life in the hope of being liked. in any case, i'll scratch any thoughts of ever going on a blind date. unless i attend it under a false name with three emergency bottles of Mace and a background sniper lurking nearby in case things go awry. tho, really, given how expensive a dinner out is, who can afford that?
tuesday:
started on-air training with fbi which i am quite enjoying. my dad asked me if I was training with *that* fbi - as if I'd be storming terrorist compounds or smashing drug rings, etc!
wednesday:
went to dinner with a friend, and then saw sparrow hill, tenniscoats and maher shalal hash baz (which I am sure I have mispelt). a lot of cute fun, though those weeknight gigs are a tad taxing (Note the distinct lack of rock n roll hardcore endurance evident in that wimpy observation.)
thursday:
went to see the very funny eddie perfect at the opera house. he tore into everyone, from the vacuous paris hilton, to the wallet-scam that is cirque du soleil to oprah's absurd modern day fairy godmother status ("where's my flatscreen TV, bitch?") to the fact trips to IKEA hath ruined many a relationship and how you've got to "stop acting so September 10". he is hilarious in a way that is supremely tricky to convey in print, but his bulls-eye targeting is very impressive.

upcoming:
seeing good night & good luck, matchpoint, matt & ben at darlinghurst theatre, qua & mountains in the sky (should be an excellent show!) and trying to come across all pirate-like for a halloween party.

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Wednesday, October 12th, 2005
11:01 pm
really looking forward to seeing arj barker in a few weeks. i've seen him twice before, and it was agonisingly good (yep, had the aches from laughing too much). i loved his bit about how he got beat up by a tai chi gang - “They only hit me twice, but it took six and a half hours”. And who has time for that? On his blog a while back, he had a funny spiel about how he felt sorry for people affected by Hurricane Katrina, as well as people named Katrina.

"It's not going to be a very popular name for a while. Who comes up with the names for storms? I remember they had a hurricane called Gilbert a few years ago. That one wasn't as destructive, but it was pretty bad all the same. So who the fuck named it Gilbert? Gilbert was one of the main characters in 'Revenge of the Nerds,' for cryin' out loud. Why Katrina? Is it all a mix-up? Is there a ballarina somewhere named Bone Crusher?"

I think there are some politicians who should be called Bone Crusher, given some of the laws they are trying to pass through. The Industrial Relations laws sound so super-dodgy and the Government's wriggling out of all the criticisms more so. For instance, their attempt to wipe their foreheads with their handkerchiefs and say that the laws will not affect whether people have to work public holidays or not, and anyways, people already work public holidays now, so it's all a beat-up. The difference that they paper over is that they want to get rid of penalty rates which is a big deal - see this PM
transcript, in which IR academic David Peetz says "there’s actually no payment that the employer needs to make in order to recompense you for working on holidays".

I think that's no small detail, as anyone who has has had to work Christmas Day or New Year's simply cos it was the only time minimum wage became viable, and especially if you are only getting by on minimum wage cos you have a Saturday shift which pays penalty rates, just to make sure your weekly salary resembles something vaguely liveable.

Also, their whole spiel about it being a worker's market, hence it being pretty dandy for us to all individually negotiate and get better deals is a total distortion given that a) you're not going to get any kind of great deal if you work serving coffee or a call centre worker or have some job that continually has a glut of applicants and b) once the economy takes a real dive, and this supposedly ideal workers market really goes up in flames, well, where's the job security in that? Bosses will have a very advantageous bargaining chip in that scenario, and I doubt they'd use it altruistically. I still think you have much more bargaining power when you do have a whole industry behind you, and not when you have to individually argue to keep your ass safe.

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Tuesday, October 11th, 2005
11:42 pm
still lovin' mike mills' thumbsucker blog.

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11:17 pm
"WALK the moment you are unappreciated ... Never, ever settle for ambivalence from anyone who is supposed to matter and care about you. They will make you feel small and unworthy of better, they will make you doubt yourself and everyone else, and it's a hole that sucks away years if you let it."

This snippet was from a round of letters that got fired off in response to that article a while back, and sorta a response to the response. Without giving away too much & dragging up relationship report cards, I really like that quote above cos I think I did too much of the opposite last time around - or naively thought ambivalence was something that could be worked through. But next time it pops up (if ever), I really don't have patience for that anymore.

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Sunday, October 9th, 2005
10:55 pm
When good Americans die they go to Paris
-Oscar Wilde

I'm not sure where good Australians go when they cark it (not that I'm about to offer myself up as a ghostly guinea pig!). Perhaps it'd be reward enough if they just got a chance to go to Paris while they were alive and kicking.

Had my first crack at re-doing French lessons on Saturday, which was a lot of fun and very rewarding (thus eliminating all my lazybones doubts about forgoing Saturday sleep-ins in the name of learning).

Saw Martin Parr do an excellent talk in Paddington. Recent projects of his include taking photos of Saddam Hussein watches (weirdly, there are plenty) and taking the photo of the last car park space in a parking lot. I really love a lot of his ideas - early on, he decided to subvert the photographer's approach of only shooting in good weather & tap into the very English past-time of being overly preoccupied with (bad) weather, by shooting pics only in bad weather. So he went out and bought an underwater camera (apparently the only non-swimmer who had done so, from the camera shop) so he could point-and-click while it pelted down. I saw two shows of his in Paris, both of which I quite enjoyed. One included a reproduction of his earliest exhibition, which was a mock living room sprayed with cheap perfume and playing The Sound of Music, and all the photos were framed in cheap Woolworths frames. There was another room where you could sit down and look through a photo album of the shots he took in Boring, Oregon.
My favourite part was a computer game which had one selection of male portraits he took in the 70s, and another selection of female portraits, and you had to pick a fella from the left of the screen and pair him off with who you thought his girlfriend was (I got this really wrong, thus proving my couple-dom radar is permanently faulty). And once you did get a match, there was a congratulatory "ding!" and then a photo of the couple appeared on the screen. Anyhoo, back to the talk. The one enduring image for me (because the talk was accompanied by pics), was the pic of a Las Vegas breakfast. I think this was from a series he did on bad food. On the plate was, among some greasy-lookin' breakfast usual suspects was something which looked like (to say it poetically) bright pink spew, but apparently as Jell-o, cos people apparently have Jello as part of their breakfast. And what looked like a poached egg on the plate was actually a big mound of cream cheese with an apricot on top. Ew. I told this to someone and they recounted the experience of a vego in an American eatery whose only option was to eat the fruit salad. When it appeared, it was a big mountain of cream which, after much inspection, was hiding, not a single speck of fruit, but jam.

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Wednesday, October 5th, 2005
11:50 pm - a lazy digest of recent things that should be elaborated on when it ain't nearly midnight
feist was INCREDIBLE - my favourite show of the year.
canberra was - despite its halfhearted promotion of illegal activity re: selling of scary knives, XXX-rated flicks, fireworks, bongs and really frighteningly randy public sculpture (there is one of two sheep about to get it on with each other near the city mall, no, seriously), it is nevertheless a sterile and BORING place to be. but the exhibitions were good. more of that later.
just got back from the stephen petronio which was very very UNDERWHELMING. give me the physical spectacle of Australian Dance Theatre anyday....
saw shopgirl, which I LOVED.
so a nice symmetrical post - equal parts enthusiasm and disappointment.

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Tuesday, September 20th, 2005
11:21 pm - part 27, 456 of the ongoing dilemma between ladiez and men
"For a long time, I've been wondering about a crisis of masculinity in our generation, a generation in which opportunities were truly available to at least middle-class women. We weren't just told we could do anything; we were expected to do everything. But we were always told how difficult that would be, that we would confront challenges and pay high prices for our satisfactions. I don't know that men of our generation were sent the same message. So when things get tough, women don't enjoy it any more than men, but they are not surprised. Whereas men -- at least some of the ones I've known -- have been paralyzed by life's hardships."


"I have a sense that particularly in New York -- though I'm sure it exists this way in Boston and in San Francisco -- there is a super-abundance of attractive, intelligent young women whom a man is very unlikely to be worthy of, who nevertheless set a higher value on him than he sets on them. This makes any sort of decision very difficult. Because to constantly be exposed to people whom you are unworthy of to begin with, yet who want you more than you want them, is confusing."

Both snippets are from an interview with Benjamin Kunkel, author of "Indecision" that ran in salon.com today. I don't think his book is out in Australia yet, indeed the first time I heard of it was chancing across this interview. I really, really enjoyed this piece though (although the male-whipping slant to the quotes I've posted ain't intentional), cos I've been thinking about things in the same box recently.

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